He Says/She Says

      In the case of He Says/She Says a couple, Luke and Ginger, are having a hard time communicating with each other based on their gendered communication patterns.  Ginger wants to communicate with Luke about a mutual friend of theirs in hopes of connecting with him.  She begins a conversation about a job offer that her friend received, then begins talking about her friends current relationship and her relationship with her parents.  Luke becomes very frustrated with Ginger because he doesn't see how any of what she's saying relates to the job offer and tells her that she needs to stick to the subject. Ginger is getting frustrated because she just wants to talk to Luke and he's trying to give her advise instead of listening to her.
      This is a perfect example of Gender Norms and the differences in how men and women communicate.  Ginger wants acknowledgment, is showing emotionality, is speaking indirectly, just wants to talk and build the relationship.  Luke is wanting to solve the problem, speaking directly, and wants to speak about one subject and accomplish that subject without need for 'small talk' about other things.
      This problem is very common in relationships and many frustrations occur because of these communication differences.  I think a big part of solving the issue in both genders is recognizing that men and women communicate differently and making the effort to understand communication needs.  In the following clip, a husband is talking to a few ladies about this EXACT subject and the women are giving him sound advice of how to speak to his wife.  When he goes home and applies their advise, you'll notice how her attitude changes as she connects with him in a level he least expected.  I think this video portrays this subject and story to the fullest.  Sit back and enjoy and thanks for reading my blog -